Q: My spouse and I are always arguing. It seems like a little thing can get heated really fast. How can we learn to communicate better? A: Our arguments often come from an honest place of hurt and confusion; we just have difficulty getting those feelings out in healthy ways. There are plenty tid-bits and tools that could apply to this issue, but I'll start with one that I use with my couples all. the. time: Take a Time-Out When we get angry or upset, our brains stop working (