The truth is, for most couples, one spouse will have a higher interest in sex than the other. As a sex therapist, I put a lot of emphasis on making sure that couples know that this is normal. It wouldn't be possible for two separate human beings to have the exact same sex drive that operates the exact same way, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, for decades on end. Differences are to be expected. And, hopefully, differences can be understood and welcomed.

If you felt a lightbulb moment when you saw the title of this blog, it is quite likely that you are the responsive desire spouse; meaning your sex drive typically comes alive after being given a compelling reason to show up. But the question remains: if you are someone with responsive desire, why was your sex drive so much higher when you were dating or engaged, but decreased after saying "I do?"

Both men and women may feel grossed out by some of the processes and fluids that come with sex - but feel too embarrassed to share their thoughts with their partner. Let me go ahead and validate this for you: you are not the only one. So, if you find yourself afflicted with mild or severe disgust during sex, let's talk about some practical ways to address the issue. This is just the tip of the ice berg, but hopefully it can get the conversation started!

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