If you felt a lightbulb moment when you saw the title of this blog, it is quite likely that you are the responsive desire spouse; meaning your sex drive typically comes alive after being given a compelling reason to show up. But the question remains: if you are someone with responsive desire, why was your sex drive so much higher when you were dating or engaged, but decreased after saying "I do?"

Wabi-sabi is a Japanese philosophy (and interior design style) that combines わび (wabi), the attitude of seeking beauty and inner contentment in simplicity and imperfection - with さび (sabi), the attitude of seeking beauty in physical things that are withered by time. Marriage itself seems to reflect elements of wabi-sabi.

After an affair, remember to treat yourself with kindness and tenderness - much like you would for a child who is experiencing great pain.

In sex therapy, it is common to have partners with mismatched libido - meaning, there is a gap between the couple's natural sex drives....

Here's the thing: keeping sexual desire ignited with a long-term partner is different than sex with a stranger.

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Be reborn, sister. Allow yourself to evolve and transform, like Mother Earth herself. The expectation of marriage is that we meet a...

We pick up our phones subconsciously and scroll... all the while, forgetting to roll over and give attention to our partner...

Hint: creativity saves relationships!

There is miraculous, divine healing power in relationships. Let yours be a fortress, refuge, and everlasting fountain.

Here's your fool-proof guide to shutting your partner down and getting you back to your comfy, familiar cycle. Guaranteed.

Why do you need more mental space for intimacy to be possible? And how do you do it?

Social-isolation may mean that you are home with a partner, inviting you to confront your pre-existing intimacy issues. Here's how to do it.

Guys, Can we talk for a second? Look. She doesn't understand why you get so upset when she isn't interested in sex. She...

Don't be afraid of your heart's longings, friend. Because you'll feel it. It's there, like a low hum. It's meant to be there. Let it stay.

If you woke up in the morning and a miracle happened, the problem was gone.... what would the day look like?

What do you respect about him? What do you see that makes you think, "Wow, he is resilient." Or that he's quick-witted, loyal, persistent...

Facing infertility? Read the perspective of a woman who sees and has experienced the struggle.