Q: I keep pushing people away when they get close to me. Why do I do this? How can I stop? A: Firstly, noticing your pattern is huge. You can't do anything without awareness. Secondly, you'll have to decide if you're ready to make a change. Because change costs; it always does. You want a big mansion and a million dollars? You're going to have to invest time and hard work. Want a healthier body? You'll be giving up the "easy" options of fast food and sedentary living. Sometim