Y'all. Therapy is a game-changer. Take from a professional therapy-giver and loyal therapy-receiver. But here's the thing: if you aren't familiar with the world of counseling, it can be hard to know where to start. To begin therapy is to start a long-term relationship with a professional of your choice. Even if you're only seeking short-term counseling (as is the case with premarital or containment during a season of high stress), it's helpful to find a person that you feel c

Show transcript from the My Intimacy Therapist Podcast - Episode 35. Listen to the episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Contact Dr. Laura Meihofer: Website: laurameihofer.com Instagram: @laurameihofer Sade Ferrier, LMFT - 0:04 Welcome to the My Intimacy Therapist Podcast. I'm therapist and coach, Sade Jovanne. If you want to feel less anxiety in your relationships and enjoy a confident and spiritual intimate life, you're in the right place. So grab a cup of tea - and a warm

As a marriage therapist, I see what happens five to ten years after the wedding bells ring. I see couples who were once in love, infatuated with one another, become cold and lifeless. They are bored with their lives. They are unmotivated to have conversations or open up again. There is no energy to get it started again. Too many excuses. "I know what he'll say," or "she'll never go for that," or "it'll end in an argument if I bring this up, so I won't." And there is truth the

Be reborn, sister. Allow yourself to evolve and transform, like Mother Earth herself. The expectation of marriage is that we meet a person and learn what we can. We fall in love with their smile, their choice of favorite food, the endless conversations that last until sleep claims our eyes. We know them. We feel known. Then something begins to change. Your favorite food is different. Your favorite genre of TV shows changes. You pick up hobbies with a new group of friends, and

So, you've met a guy that you are very interested in. He has a lot of strong check marks in his favor. You both have a certain hobby in common. You vibe very well. Maybe you attend the same church, or enjoy the same podcasts and preachers. And, he is very handsome... like.... some might say "sexy af." Your heart immediately comes alive, and fire courses through your veins. You want more of him. You can't wait to see him next, hear from him. You find yourself able to highlight

I went through deconstruction in the summer of 2020. So much was going on - both personally and globally - and I found myself distancing from the American Christian church. And thing is, this wasn't the first time for me. For a while, I've been disappointed (and hurt) by the impacts that colonialism, systemic racism and perfectionism have had on the body of Christ. I just...couldn't quite articulate it until that summer. But in the emergence and reconstruction from that dark

The temptation to compare is strong within me. It beckons like a forceful wind, gusts that bend trees and bang branches against windows. "Look over there. Look." And so I look to the left and the right, seeing just how well someone else is doing, or just how beautiful and embodied that woman is, or just how effortless that person's journey appears. Their faith is so strong, I think. I hold mine in my hands like the mustard seed that it is. But comparison, I've learned, comple

I never, ever thought that I'd be able to do a split. I've always been jealous of the ladies who were so effortlessly flexible that they could stretch their bodies any way they wanted. My body, on the other hand, is rigid. It's easy for me to "other" myself. Those ladies can be flexible, but my body is different. I can't. This kind of mindset has bled into multiple areas of my life - and I'm guessing that you can relate, too. It's a two-part self-sabotage: you (a) have a spec

I'm the daughter of two Jamaican immigrants who started from scratch when they moved to the United States. New careers. New homes. New customs and expectations. And, when I talk to other first-gen millennials - especially from the Caribbean or Latin America - I notice that we have a lot in common. Even beyond our food or our music. It's the difference between our parents' mindsets and our own. For some of us, our parents were born and raised in a survivor's atmosphere. Basic

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Hello, lovely, I see your fear. It sounds to me that your partner may not know how to manage the feelings that are coming up for him. Now, I don't know your man specifically, but I work with plenty of couples where the partner truly does care for his lady, deeply - but he can't fathom why she doesn't want to be intimate with him. It hurts. It feels like a blatant rejection. He's tried to initiate so many times, and none of his efforts reach her. He doesn't know what to do. An

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