Over time, this creates a gap. The Spontaneous Drive spouse gets tired of always initiating, and always being rejected. They may get to a place where they decide not to initiate at all - just to see if their spouse will ever pick up the mantle to initiate interest. Conversely, the Responsive Drive spouse may be glad for the break - or not even notice. Still, the Responsive Drive spouse may crave closeness, affection and connection, and will be hurt by their spouse's physical