Q: My spouse and I are always arguing. It seems like a little thing can get heated really fast. How can we learn to communicate better? A: Our arguments often come from an honest place of hurt and confusion; we just have difficulty getting those feelings out in healthy ways. There are plenty tid-bits and tools that could apply to this issue, but I'll start with one that I use with my couples all. the. time: Take a Time-Out When we get angry or upset, our brains stop working (
At the beginning of a relationship, you can't keep our hands off of each other. There's this magnetism, this desire to be wrapped in each other's arms, rolling around in the grass somewhere. Your hearts pound, your pupils dilate, and the sexual tension is unbearably high. Then you get married. You get into the rhythm of daily life: bills, disappointments, doctor's visits, kids, jobs, family members, weird schedules... and all of a sudden, ten years have passed, and you can't
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