So, you can be a couple that loves and cares deeply for one another - but has trouble finding the spark of romance and passion. Or, the spark is there - but the your bodies are still on high alert, keeping you safe from the activity that is supposed to be bad. If you think about it, you really can empathize with your body's response. It's as if it's saying, "hey, but you said not to do this. You made it very clear. Why are we doing it now?!"